There is often discussion about the ethics of working surrogately for someone. Some people feel that it’s necessary to ask permission from the person you wish to work for. This can be difficult if it’s a baby or an animal.
The most important thing is to take time to decide why you feel the need to work for someone in this way. I often have to dissuade clients for tapping for the people in their life that they think are “the problem!” I suggest that they tap on themselves first and clear the need for the other person to be wrong. Once you are clear about the reason for the tapping and it’s purely in the interest of the person being tapped for, go ahead.
I believe that if you intend the work to be for the highest good of everyone concerned, you can go ahead and do the work. In my experience, it will be accepted or not and you might even know whether it has been.
If I surrogate tap for my children I certainly know if they’ve accepted it or not. If I’m tapping because I want them to change to make ME feel better, I can feel it come back and hit me. If I’m doing it purely to help them, I just have a sense of it being accepted.
The way I prefer to work surrogately is to imagine that I’m stepping into the person that I’m tapping for. I say that “I’m tapping for ……” and I imagine that I’m them.
I may start with something general that I can’t get wrong, such as “Even though I feel like this, I’m OK” and as I tap, thoughts and feelings come up and I incorporate them in the statements.
I often start without a clear idea of what will be helpful, but somehow I’m guided, by my subconscious, my higher self, the universe, and I “know” what needs to be tapped on. Let yourself go and be creative. If it’s not relevant it won’t land, just as when you work with a client in your room.
You can do this for animals, children, people at a distance. You may never have a clear answer as to whether it worked, but quite often you will. I have tapped surrogately, with another EFT Master, for a very distressed baby on a plane. One of us tapped for the baby and the other for the stressed mother who couldn’t stop him from crying. 3 minutes later, there was silence and he slept from London to Dallas, only waking as we landed! It certainly is a useful way of using EFT, try it next time you’re travelling with a fractious child!
