Just finished an EFT Level 1 and 2 training and am still feeling totally amazed how much people can learn in such a short space of time.
I like to have small groups for my training, so that people can connect more easily with each other and it’s a joy to watch each group bonding, in their own way and learning to trust each other.
It’s that trust that creates good therapy. As the client relaxes, they are able to feel safe to access the deepest “stuff” that they have buried and watch as it melts away.
In training, the therapist needs trust too, trust of themselves and the client.
When we don’t trust ourselves in a session, the session becomes about ourselves rather than the client, as we constantly assess what we’re doing, how the client is perceiving us, and worry about “getting it wrong.”
When we don’t trust the client to have all the answers they need inside them, we feel that it’s our job to “fix” them and we feel the pressure of trying to do a job that’s not really ours.
A great part of my courses are spent helping people to relax. Reminding them that the client has the answers and that our job as therapist is to help the client uncover their inner wisdom.
By relaxing and really being with our clients, we’re able to really listen to them. We can spot the words they say that have the high emotional charge that we can then put into the EFT statement. We can hear the clues they give us about why part of them might not want to make changes and then explore that. We can pick up information from the client energetically. When we and our clients are really relaxed and comfortable in each others company, the energy fields merge and we have access to what the client is feeling. It doesn’t mean that we know whatever is going on in their life, but it allows for those moments of inspiration, when a word or thought pops into our head, which when you tap on it, proves to be the key to big change.
It’s lovely to see how that trust develops over the course and just what amazing shifts people have as they relax into the work.
And the best part is seeing trainee’s confidence in their abilities as they leave. They’ve proved to themselves what a huge shift they can help their client to create and they’ve experienced those shifts themselves. They know EFT works and they know they can use it! Life will always look different after that because they have power to change lives, including their own. What a gift it is.
And I wonder how your life might change if you could trust yourself? If you could really believe that you have all the answers you’ll ever need inside yourself? If you could believe as a therapist that you biggest job is to help the client feel safe? If you knew that your biggest gift to a client is to be yourself? And your biggest gift to the world is to be yourself, because who else can you really be? J
I wonder what you’d be doing differently?
Join me in a Tapalong to access trust in yourself.
Even though I’m not sure I can trust myself, I’m OK
Even though even though this seems too simple I’m OK
Even though I can’t believe I’m not supposed to be DOING something, I deeply and completely accept the part of me that learned to be a human doing J
Tapping through the points
How could I be enough?
I can’t believe it
I won’t believe it
What else is there?
Why am I here taking this space in the universe?
There must be a purpose
Even though just being me can’t be enough, I’m Ok
Even though just being me is really all I can be and it still doesn’t feel enough, I deeply and completely accept myself
Even though I’m not sure I can allow myself to believe that I’m enough myself, maybe I could be open to the possibility that I could try out considering the possibility that it might even be true!
Tapping through the points
What if the universe didn’t get it wrong?
What if my only job is to be here being me?
What if I could allow myself to believe that I am enough?
What if it was true?
What if I could pretend it’s true and see what happens?
What if I could be open to the possibility that it might be true?
What a difference it might make in my life
What a difference it might make to my clients, because if I can show that I’m enough, it opens the possibility to them, for them to be enough too
And what if the truth is, we are all enough? What a great world that would be!
All in the right place, at the right time, with the right people, doing the right things.
How wonderful! And maybe it starts with me