Grabbing life with both hands

Life’s just a bowl of cherries!

 

I borrowed that title from Annabel Fisher, a lovely EFTer who after 3 years treatment for recurring cancer has decided to stop treatment and grab life with both hands, for the time she has left. She’s such an inspiration.

Wouldn’t life be extraordinary if we could allow ourselves to do that right now, rather than at the end of our life? I’ve been reminded of the importance of that, the last couple of years. First my mother and cousin died and this year, my father in law and my brother. It made me really focus on life in the moment and what’s really important to me. There are so many “shoulds” we’re brought up to believe in, so many dutiful things to do, that we often let our own dreams and desires go. We think we’ll pick them up at some time in the future, when we’ve done all the things we think we “ought” to do first. And let me tell you, no matter how many of those things you do, the list never gets any smaller. There’s always more to do, before you can get to your own stuff.

And of course, what I find for myself, is that I’m not always sure what I really want. I’ve got so used to shutting those thoughts and feelings off, putting things onto the back burner, not thinking what I might want to do/be/create, in case I get resentful, that even when I give myself space, I find myself standing there wondering what I’m supposed to do!!

Mum lived a long and full life and I know there were many things she didn’t allow herself to do, because she didn’t think it would be ok, she wasn’t sure what people would think. My brother, I’m realising now, did much more of the things he wanted, travelling, creating a business and finally, buying himself the wood that he’d wanted since a child. He had a whole year in it, with a glorious summer and I’m so happy that he did that, as it would have been so easy for him to have put it off. (Procrastination was the family game:) )

As for me, I finally allowed myself to dream and live the dream for several years and then I noticed I was slowly closing down, allowing myself to get smaller and less adventurous, to “settle” for what I thought was possible, or achievable, rather than really be my out there self. It’s been a journey, watching myself, noticing what I was doing, tapping, tapping, tapping and as always, this is a journey, not a pass and fail and I’m part way along it. I’m in a very comfortable position right now, with a house and garden that I love, ( I had no idea that would be so important to me:) ) and I’ve had a breathing space, time to balance after all the loss and change. I have no idea at the moment, what’s next and I do know, listening to myself and what makes me feel good, what lights me up, is my inner guidance system and I’m practising listening to it much more than I ever have.

This is the beginning of the rest of my life and I intend to grab it with both hands and also to know that doesn’t necessarily mean I have to rush around doing things. When I’m in the garden, watching the flowers growing, looking at the flames of the fire, watching the hedgehog, I’m present. I’m really living in the moment, living my life. Thats what I want more of, being present to what is. knowing I’m happy, in the moment, rather than remembering that I was happy, when I look back!

I invite you to take some time to tune in to what makes you happy in the moment, because those moments are all we know we have. The more we do that, the greater the sum of happiness we feel.

If you’d like some support in tuning into what’s important to you, allowing yourself to dream, I’m running a one day retreat called Manifesting – turning your dreams into reality, on 8th September. (Because we always teach what we need to learn, don’t we:) )  I’d love you to join me and lets see what we can create together:)

Manifesting!

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Hi Folks,

I hope you’re all coping with this extraordinary summer weather? Here in the UK we have had sunshine and no rain for over 2 months now. for a country that hopes for the sun every summer, in the middle of our wet and grey days, it’s extraordinary! The last time we had a summer like this was 1976. I’m torn between the desire for rain, for the garden and the farmers and the delight in sunshine and not having to carry umbrellas, jumpers and coats with us, which is our usual summer employment:) We had 1 day of rain here a couple of weeks ago and I don’t think I’m the only one that stood outside and danced in it:) There’s a part of me wondering if I manifested a proper summer as I really wanted one:)

It has, however, allowed me to manifest the time out that I’ve been wanting. The time to just be and to think and to focus on each moment and really live it. It’s been too hot to do anything. Too hot to sit at the computer, too hot to rush around and fill my days with doing, too hot even to plan and consider what I want to manifest:)

At the hottest part of the day, I’ve allowed myself to lie in the shade on my swing and doze and watch butterflies and bees. I’ve gardened in the evening or early morning and realised just how much I can achieve a small bit at a time and that when I’m not beating myself up and “shoulding” on myself, life is so much more enjoyable. I think I needed to let go of old habits and patterns to really experience what life is like without them …..and it’s good:)

I’m remembering yet again that we are powerful manifesters, and when we get clear about what we want in our lives and how we want to feel, attracting that into our lives, is easy. And of course, if it’s not easy, it just means there’s a part of us not on board with the changes we want and that’s tappable:)

The retreat in Slovenia this year was about manifesting and boy did we have fun! You’d have been amazed at the old beliefs that we were all harbouring and of course, most of those beliefs weren’t ours in the first place, they came down the family line. I’m so grateful for the group, who went into the exploration so wholeheartedly. We discovered and cleared so much in the time we were together and we could see how much things had changed and how much clearer we were about what we wanted.

It was such a profound time that I decided that I’d like to share what we did with others, so I’ve created a day retreat, Manifesting – creating the life of your dreams where we’ll be in a lovely venue, with lunch provided, as we clear all those old beliefs that that get in our way and prevent us from even being clear about what we’d like to manifest. We’ll clear all the stuff that’s come down through the family, anything we’re carrying from past lives and then we’ll get really clear about what we want to manifest in our lives and give our subconscious a guidance system to follow, to help us create the life we want to live.

I’m very excited about it as I know the possibilities that we’ll create. if you feel excited too, I’d love you to come and join us.

Meanwhile, enjoy whatever your summer (or winter) is bringing. tune into your life, take time to celebrate all those precious moments, however small and know that you are in charge, it’s your life and you have the right to create it as you’d like it to be, anything other than that, is tappable:) Happy tapping and I hope to see you soon:)

With love from Jacqui

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