“Yes but’s” and “What if’s”

Following on from the last blog I promised you a follow up video on clearing all the “Yes but’s” and “What if’s.”
Whenever you clear something and the change is likely to take you out of your comfort zone, these pesky things pop up. They’re something to be celebrated, because they are the things that younger parts of you are worried about. Once you know that, you know what to tap on next:) Why not use this video to tap along with me to get you started and see what useful information those young parts of you will share with you? Even if you’ve not just done a big change, you may find some interesting “Yes but’s” and “What if’s.”popping up. Happy Tapping:)

And if you’d like to work with me to clear anything that comes up please check out my website for details:)

Lying on your back, looking at clouds is a great idea!

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When did you last do that?

How do you think you would feel, watching as they change with every breath of the wind?

There’s no space to think about your to do list, no space for all your “shoulds.”

It’s time out – a breathing space. It’s so easy – you can do it any time, any where. The right clothes, and this stress buster is yours!

I spent some of last weekend watching a blizzard, feeling the snowflakes on my cheeks as the clouds tore past. It was magical :)

You’ll find your breathing changes, things slow down and when you get up to return to “real” life you’ll feel more relaxed, refreshed and just that little bit more connected to the “big picture.”

It’s a bit like using EFT isn’t it:)

Why not try it and let me know how you like it? It could be the start of something big :)

Much love and big hugs to you all:) Jacqui

Spring Cleaning!

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Welcome to Spring, a time of renewal, rebirth and growth.

It’s such an exciting time, every time I go out, there’s something different blooming and something has already bloomed and faded.

It’s no co-incidence that people spring clean, the energy is all about getting rid of the old, the “stuff” we’ve been holding onto and looking forward to what we want to create, how bright and shiny we want ourselves and our lives to be.

It’s been a magnificent spring here, because we’ve had sunshine and less rain than usual, so everything has taken the chance of growing, blooming, being out in the world and then  we had a frost and the apple blossom which was so magnificent turned brown on the top.

And that’s what can sometimes happen to us too. We are in a good space, we dare to grow, to bloom, to show the world who we are and then something happens that “damages” us. That feels as though it hurts or harms us and we wonder if the growing and blooming was a mistake. Should we have protected ourselves better? Should we have stayed small and hidden, would it have been safer?

And yet, the apple tree has already shown the world it’s magnificence, it’s added to the joy. It will continue to grow, it’ll still have fruit, even if it’s less, but the blooming was worth it and how could it not have done that, it’s what it’s here for.

And it’s the same for us. We’re here to grow and bloom and share who we are with the world. To add to the joy of the world and when the knockbacks come, as they will, remember, it’s still safe to shine, to be our glorious selves and anything that tells us different is just the younger parts of us that were hurt when they were young and who chose the only way they could see, to stay safe, probably because their parents did that, and their parents, parents right back through time.

Remember it’s not what happens to us that causes us problems, it’s the meanings we make of the feelings that are created and the one thing we can really be in control of is our feelings and the meanings we give them:)

So, if life is feeling a bit difficult right now, if you weren’t carrying your own old “stuff” and your families old “stuff”, if you’d had an emotional spring clean and you were looking at your now with clean, clear, fresh eyes, how would you choose to be seeing yourself? How would you be choosing to see the situation?

And remind your self you have the right and the ability, to decide what’s the most helpful way for you to see things and yourself and you can do that. It’s not only the best gift you can give to yourself, it’s the best gift you can give the world, because you’re adding love and joy to the world, which can be borrowed by anyone who needs it. Much more useful than wallowing in all the old feelings that we’re so familiar with and still, have compassion for yourself feeling those old feelings and give yourself permission to acknowledge them and let them go, they’ve served their purpose, they got you here and you’re here now and it’s finally safe to do things differently, that’s what tapping’s for:) !!!

If you fancy a spring clean, here’s a youtube video to guide you. Happy tapping:)

And of course if you want a really good, in depth clear out, you can book a session with me, I’m an expert at spring cleaning:)

With Love from Jacqui

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Celebrations!!

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Happy Belated New Year to you all.

As I always do, I took the opportunity of New Year to look back over the past year and forward to 2016 and this year, for a change, I actually noticed and acknowledged just how far I’d come!

I don’t know about you, but I’m great at focusing on what’s not working and what I don’t think I’ve done well and the things I’m not happy about, about myself and the world and much less good at focusing on what’s worked, what I liked, what I’m happy about!

 I’m great at getting clients and trainees to see the good things, just not so good at doing it myself:))

This year I made a conscious decision to do it differently and it was amazing. I could see how much I’d achieved, I could see the life I’d created and I could see how I’d grown. It felt so empowering. If I could do that, in 2015, I could do even more in 2016 and that felt really positive. It was a great start to the year.

As I considered what I wanted to achieve in 2016 what I found was that I didn’t want to set practical targets. I didn’t want to make decisions of what I would do with the business, what courses I would offer, I was most interested in my feelings and how I wanted to feel about myself and the world. There was a real sense that when I felt good, I’d be open to new opportunities and that they would be easy and things would flow, so long as I was in a good space.

So I started focusing on how I was feeling when I thought about what I was doing. I made decisions based on the feelings and it led to a lot more me time, a lot of moving gently and slowly through the days, than I would normally allow myself.

I was amazed at the lack of stress and how little time it took me to do things when I decided to do them. When I hadn’t been thinking of doing something and then resisting doing it, for days, the energy was there to get going and things took no time at all.

I had to do a lot of tapping as I went along. Parts were in panic because they weren’t being asked to rush around, they told me it wouldn’t work, I wasn’t being a good girl, I’d get into trouble, all the old voices saying all the old stuff and it was so good just to go in and love those frightened parts until they felt safe. As always, it’s all about safety.

So the result of all of this is a relaxed Jacqui who feels more trusting of the universe and herself:) and who allowed herself not to post anything till it felt right and already new ideas are percolating.

The first is a Celebration day. I would love to offer you a day where you can come together and celebrate who you are and what already works in your life and then to use that energy to focus on the coming year and the rest of your life:)

You’ll get into contact with the feelings that are good for you. Find the things that light you up, help you to feel confident and empowered, open you to new magnificent possibilities.

You’ll leave with a guidance system to help you create your life, as you’d like it to be and then we celebrate the year to come and envision the fun, the joy, the glory, the excitement that will be there for us.

If you’d like 2016 to be the most magnificent yet, please come and join me at a live workshop and there will be an online version for those not in the UK starting on 29th March.

I wish you a glorious year, full of fun and laughter and joy and peace and excitement and wonder.

And if you’d like to set that in motion with me, please come and have fun with me and a lovely group of people on 26th March:)

And if you’re not able to come to the workshop, there’s an online program running over 3 weeks from 29th March.

Meanwhile, here’s a tapalong on celebrating who you are

PS, For those interested in the baby saga, Bean, now known as Ben is sitting up, has found his voice and weighs 14lbs and the new baby due in June is also a boy, Riley is very pleased, “because girls scratch!”

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12th February, another chance to Look forward – creating the life you want to lead

12th March the next series of EFT Masterclasses begins with EFT and Timelines you can take these separately or together.

18th March Abundance -Creating new money patterns and habits

26th March Celebration day

29th March Celebration online 3 week program

With love from Jacqui

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Trusting yourself and a very special offer for you :)

A reminder that the content of the blog and the newsletter is the same, no need to read both:)

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Hi Folks,

I’m just back from the AMT conference in Eastbourne. I do love EFT gatherings, you meet so many lovely people there and this time I had a bonus and was the demo for Tamara Donn on her session EFT and Family Constellations. It was so powerful I had to go and sleep afterwards!! I love how so many different ways of working blend with EFT.

Deborah Donndelinger from the States is presenting on Family energetics at the EFT Gathering in York In January, so that’s another opportunity to find ways to work with family “stuff.”:)

It’s a really great lineup at the Gathering this year, (and it’s in my favourite city York!) and international too:) apart from Deborah there’s Kris Ferraro from the US and Yvonne Toeset from the Netherlands and a whole bunch of interesting people from the UK. If you’d like to join us, check out what’s on offer.

My presentation in Eastbourne was on “Trusting yourself.” It went well in spite of dropping a tea bag right down my front seconds before I started!! If anyone knows how to get tea out of linen, please let me know, vanish doesn’t work!

In fact 2 people told me my use of EFT was exquisite!! You can imagine how great that felt:)

I love sharing my work with people who will take it and use it to make a difference for their clients, so when I present, I aim to help people clear whatever is in their own way and also share ways of working that they can use.

Trusting yourself is so important, both as a therapist as in our lives. We start out knowing who we are and why we’re here and then we see what people around us are doing and saying and we get confused. We end up with conflict inside us between what we know and what we think others know and part of us believes that the big people must know best, because they always tell us that!!

So we start to doubt ourselves and our abilities. EFT can help us to let go of all the stuff we picked up from our ancestors, in the womb and before and also unfinished stuff from past lives. When we clear that, it’s so much easier to clear what’s going on for us right now and begin to connect again to the beauty of who we really are. That’s what happens for our clients when we have a good session and it’s what we can gift ourselves, so that we can share that in our client sessions and with the people in our lives.

Here’s a tapalong on trusting ourselves

I’m so excited about the new series of EFT Expert online Masterclasses, starting on 22nd October.

And now, here’s a special offer, just for the people who read my newsletter or blog, because I know how dedicated you are to being the best you can be :)

From now until Sunday evening the 18th October, midnight in the UK, I’m going to offer you the chance of taking these classes for £449 for the whole series, a reduction of £100, or £95 for each, rather than £125, if you take them singly.

I already have feedback about the difference it’s made to people who have done them and how it’s changed their clients experience.

From a client to someone who took these classes “I’ve had such a wonderful 24 hours since our EFT session yesterday, it’s been better than I could have ever hoped or expected. That sense of strength and peace and happiness I felt by the end of our session has stayed with me every moment since, and I can already see it spreading to the people around me! It’s such a contrast to the dark, stressful depression I was living in day after day – I can’t thank you enough for your help and support.”

From a client “Thanks so much for Wednesday’s session, it was really incredible and has already been life changing- it’s like we dug up the roots on Weds and the whole dandelion plant had been weeded out in just one day!” 

From a therapistI warm to your style of making things normal and conversational, rather than e.g. a slightly stilted formal parts process. 

From a therapist “I was really surprised how much sense this made for me and it has rocketed me on a journey that I would not have expected.”

I look forward to connecting with you whenever we do and meanwhile, have a good week and trust yourself to be enough….you always are:)

22.10.15 EFT Expert toolkit – Masterclasses online – EFT and Timelines

 Working with parts and the inner child – Masterclass Live Learn how to relax and connect with your clients inner children and the rebel and the scared parts, in a simple, conversational, non threatening way. It can be so easy, come and find out how.

30/31st January 2016 EFT Gathering in York

And of course if you’d like to work with me 1 to 1, email me at Jacqui@jacquicrooks.com

With love from

Jacqui

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Clearing SAD syndrome, enjoying the Autumn

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Hi Folks,

First of for those of you who receive the blog and the newsletter, this is to let you know that I’ve decided to put the same info in each for now, to see how that works. For months I’ve been trying to decide what to write on which and working out who reads what and then I had the brilliant idea that if it’s the same on both, you get to read it whichever comes your way and you don’t have to click over to anything at all! Phew, what a relief, I hear you say:)

It certainly takes the guesswork out of it for me and you only have one thing to read. I’m hoping it’ll prove to be a win/win situation.:)

And I wonder what is is about me and newsletters at the moment, this was ready to go yesterday, I tried to add an extra picture and the whole lot froze and I lost it! Mmm more tapping I think!!

So… back to business….

The weather has changed here overnight. We’ve had a wonderful week or 2 with perfect autumn weather. Cool mornings, warm and sunny days and magnificent colour. As we had a warm summer, the tree colours are wonderful.

I was driving through the grey drizzle today, watching the trees thrashing in the wind and leaves whirling down and I realized yet again what a beautiful world we live in, whatever the weather.

It reminded me that many years ago, I used to suffer from SAD syndrome, the depression that comes with lower levels of light and I sorted it with EFT and it’s obviously still working!

I taped on how I felt on grey days and then I tapped on how I felt on sunny days and then I tapped to tell my subconscious that I wanted to have the sunny day feeling, even on the grey days. So simple and it works:)

I remember at the time suddenly realizing that I would be halfway through a day before it dawned on me that it was grey. It felt so wonderful to be able to keep my usual optimistic self in place whatever the weather was doing:)

I thought I’d do a video tapalong on changing those feelings, so you can ride the season’s changes more easily. And I accidentally found out how to add the video without you clicking on a link!! Hurray, maybe I’m finally getting the hang of technology!!

It truly is a beautiful world when we allow ourselves to notice it.

I’m really excited to be getting ready to launch the new round of the

EFT Expert Toolkit – EFT masterclasses Online on the

22nd October.

This is a way for those of you who can’t get to the live workshops to learn all the things that I teach. I’ve set it up so that you can feel part of a community. You can connect with other participants in a facebook group to share ideas and experiences and maybe find tapping buddies. You will have email support from me and there will be chance to ask questions. At the end there will be a tapping session to clear any blocks you may have to using what you’ve learned, so that you’re in a good place to move forward.

I’m offering it as a complete package, though for those of you who just want a particular session, you can have that too, you just don’t get the bells and whistles with it:)

If you want to check out the possibilities, here they are.

I had a lovely time at the weekend on the Language for change workshop and for those of you who are interested, the next one is

7th November Working with Parts and the Inner Child

This work is essential in any EFT session and I love to make it seamless and effortless. It works so much better for you and your clients that way.

In this workshop you will learn how to:-

  • Take the client back to early times when they felt the same feelings that they feel now.
  • Work with the client at the age they were then, to clear the initial trauma.
  • Include any other time that they felt those feelings, into the healing.
  • Work with the parts of the client that don’t want to change, or are afraid to change.
  • Listen for the “yes but’s” and the “what if’s” that can keep the client stuck.
  • Include the possibility of clearing past life issues in a sentence.

“I LOVE the easy effortless way you integrate parts!”

I may see some of you at the AMT conference in Eastbourne this weekend.

If you see me please come up for your free hug:)

 And don’t forget the EFT Gathering in York 30/31st January.

There’s some great speakers, (including me:) ) and more free hugs to be had. I do think EFTer’s give the best hugs. IMG_3812

with love from

Jacqui

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What a wonderful World! (when you’re kind to yourself:) )

What a wonderful world!

I’ve just been driving through the beautiful autumn countryside, seeing all the colours of Autumn creeping through and now I’m sitting at my desk looking out at the garden, which is full of the last flowering of plants with the apples shining like lights on the tree and I’m just so full of joy and gratitude for this wonderful world of ours and so grateful to be here and enjoying it.

My new regime of giving myself space and listening to myself is paying off. I finally have non- negotiable time for myself every morning, (and yes, sometimes I have to get up early to do that and that means earlier nights, which also feel good:) ) I was prompted by reading Rebecca Campbell’s book, Light is the new black. I met her a while ago and her energy is amazing.:)

I spend some time just breathing, into my belly, pause, out again, pause and surprisingly I found that it made a difference when I walk, I have more breath when I go up hills!

I journal. I’ve always found that I get so many insights when I just write about what’s going on in my life and often I get the solutions too. It feels like I give space for my higher self and source to get through to me.

I ask for help from my higher self, source, guides and angels, something I’ve not been very good at doing, so I must have cleared some of my “ I have to do it on my own,” stuff, which feels good.

I breathe in the light and energy of source and imagine it clearing out anything that’s not for my highest good, from my chakras, my bodies, my aura, my cells and if the sun’s shining, I can imagine it as the light from source and that really helps:)

Lots of simple things, that don’t take a great deal of time, but I feel so much more connected to myself by doing them and that’s what it’s really all about. Whatever we’re not happy about in our lives comes down to our lack of connection to ourselves and of course to source. If I’m unhappy about something, part of me is making it mean something about me and that means that I’m not connected to my real, complete self, I’m connecting to a part of me, often very much younger, that created a belief as a means of survival in difficult times. It means that I can’t see the bigger picture, I can’t connect to my current resources and life becomes difficult. Taking time to connect to your real self, that eternal shining being, gives you a more helpful perspective and a chance to use the tools you’ve gained over your life. Life becomes so much easier. You may not be able to change a situation, but when you change how you feels about it, everything changes. And it’s not about getting mad with the part of you that was so under resourced it’s about loving it and all the shadow side of yourself.

YOU ARE DOING THE VERY BEST YOU CAN ……. ALWAYS!

So be gentle with yourself. Celebrate who you are and where you are. Allow yourself to enjoy the world in whatever way works for you. Bless yourself, you’re doing such a great job of living your life, in your unique way, and that’s what you chose to be here for:)

Here’s a tapalong for you on being gentle with yourself:)

May your week be wonderful and may you let your light shine, just that little bit more than usual:)

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With love from Jacqui

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If you’d like to work with me, here are some ways of doing that:)

One to one sessions

3.10.15 Language for change – EFT Masterclass

22.10.15 Creating an EFT Expert Toolkit, Online training.

10/11th October AMT Conference Eastbourne

30/31st January EFT Gathering in York

Happiness is …….

………different things to different people.

And that’s true. One person can be happy watching an opera, another by walking in IMG_3680the country, someone else by cooking for their family, someone else by stroking a cat and I’ve been thinking about what is underneath all of these activities that create happiness.

 

 

I believe that under all the activities, what’s really going on for us is that we’re connecting to ourselves and to something greater than ourselves. Whether you call that God, the universe, higher energies I see it as something that is “more than” I am alone.

I’m part of it and it’s part of me and doing something that uplifts me, makes me happy, allows me to connect to that “more than” part of me.

It’s the bright and shiny part, as one of my friends says,:) the golden soul that’s who you are eternally and when we’re connected to that, the world seems brighter, things flow more easily and we shine and spread that happiness around us.

And sometimes we find we just don’t do the things that make us happy and that’s down to old training, rules we’ve created and the “stuff” that comes from family and society.

And the good news is we have the tools to let go of that “stuff”, so we can do more of the “stuff “that makes us happy! Aren’t we lucky!

I went to a group last week, based on happiness and what I realised was how handicapped people are when they don’t have the tools to make changes, to let go of old feelings and beliefs. We truly are blessed to have this wonderful EFT tool in our lives.

It’s why I created my Masterclass trainings Live and Online.

I help people to clear the “stuff” that’s in the way of their shine in weeks rather than months or years and I do it safely.

The more people who shine, the more we get to connect to the shine, and the more we shine, the more others do too. It’s a cascade of good feelings and the world needs that.

Meanwhile, you could look out for happiness ideas coming your way and notice the things in your life that make you happy and do more of them and tap if you find you don’t:)

And here’s a tapalong on happiness

IMG_3671As you can probably tell from the photos, I’m the one that gets uplifted by walking, being out in the countryside. This year looks like the best ever berry year. I’ve never seen so many sloes and hawthorn berries. They say it’s a sign of a bad winter to come and if that’s so, I’ll find happiness in the beauty of the snow and the frost. There’s always a positive along with the negatives and we can focus on whichever we choose:)

And if you want your own burst of positivity why not come and join us for the first of the Masterclass workshops this Saturday, 12th September Getting to the real roots of an issue easily – EFT and Timelines – only 2 spaces left!

You’ll connect to a great group of people, learn a lot about how to make your EFT even more effective and you’ll get to clear a lot of your own stuff too. We have a lot of fun and bond into a really loving and supportive group.

Registration for the September Masterclasses online is now closed and there will be a new group starting on 8th October. If you had planned to join us and then missed out this time, please book early to save your place, they go fast :)

And of course you can always book a one to one with me, That will increase your happiness:) (and mine!) jacqui@jacquicrooks.comIMG_3664

 

With love from Jacqui

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Lighthouses don’t go running all over the island……

 

 


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“Lighthouses don’t go running all over the island, looking for boats to save.

They just stand there shining”

Ann Lamott

What a perfect quote. Doesn’t it just say it all? I was talking about being a lighthouse to a client the other day and of course, I was saying it for me too. (Don’t you love how your clients help you to learn:) )

I realised that although I know my job is to be me, to shine as brightly as I can, I still get caught up in the old rescuing pattern from time to time and I was doing that in a couple of areas of my life right now. Isn’t it amazing how it just sneaks up on you? One minute you are shining brightly, the next you’re running after those boats and guess what? Those boats are running at least as fast as you are:) you’re never going to catch them and even if you did, they’ll just keep running. Shining is your thing, they may have a different agenda, a different life path and it’s not for you to tell them they’re wrong.

If you are truly embodying you, if you are creating and living your life in a way that supports you, helps you to grow, then you can’t help but shine and in shining, you are inviting others to do the same.

Whether they decide to or not, is none of your business! You are your business and they are their business. It may not be what we were taught as children and it’s still the truth. You can’t make anyone change if they don’t want to and maybe, just maybe, they know what’s best for them in this life. It might not make sense to you, but to a part of them it does.

The most useful thing you can do for them is to shine your own light, wish them well and trust that all is as it should be, trust them to do what is right for them and trust you to know what is right for you (and then tap on any frustration because they just won’t do it your way :) )

Have fun this week, shining your light. If you weren’t responsible for rescuing anyone this week, what would you be doing? Can you invest that energy in yourself? Allow you to shine even more brightly? I’d love to hear how it goes:)

And if you could use a hand in clearing old patterns that are hanging in there, book a session and we’ll get to the root and clear it.

Or join me on the 10th September for EFT Masterclasses online or 12th September for EFT Masterclasses live to learn even more effective ways to use EFT and clear that backlog of your own stuff while you learn:)

Foe those of you new to EFT, there’s also an Introduction to EFT live on the 11th September.

Please pass the dates on to anyone you think might be interested:)

And don’t forget The AMT conference in Eastbourne, where I’ll be talking about Trusting yourself.

And the EFT Gathering in York, where I’ll be talking about Coming Home to Yourself.

These conferences/gatherings are a wonderful way to connect to the EFT community, while seeing what others are doing with EFT. You always leave feeling inspired and uplifted (and of course there’s all the hugs:)

Take wrong turns, talk to strangers:)

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“Take wrong turns. Talk to strangers. Open unmarked doors. And if you see a group of people in a field, go find out what they are doing. Do things without always knowing how they’ll turn out”.   Randall Munroe

Isn’t this a wonderful quote? The essence of living from love and curiosity, rather than from fear.

Those are the things we’re told NOT to do as children and so we stifle ourselves, keep ourselves small because of someone else’s fear.

Where does that come from? From other peoples lives, other times. Times that were different to ours, where starvation, attack, losing all you love was the reality and the trauma of those times gets passed down to us in many ways.

We’ve always known that the fears get passed down by the things that the people around us say and do and now new research at New York’s Mount Sinai hospital with holocaust survivors shows that  trauma is also passed down in the genes. These are things we may have thought were true, but how great to see the scientific evidence for it.

Does that mean we’re stuck with all that fear? Not at all. It is possible to make changes to our feelings and our beliefs right now and as we do, we change the neural pathways in our brains and I believe we also change the genes that are switched on and the way those genes express themselves. If they can be changed by trauma, it follows that they can be changed by the release of trauma.

The limitations that were in place for our ancestors are often no longer relevant for us in 2015 and for the lives that we’re living now and when we release them, we are opening ourselves to creating new beliefs and feelings that are appropriate for who we are and where we are right now! Hurray for Tapping!! We are so lucky to have the skills and understanding that we have now, that weren’t available, even to our parents generation.

It’s time to start again, from where you are now and to create the beliefs and feelings that will support you living the life you want to live now. What a gift to the world that would be:)

And here’s a tapalong to get you started:)

There are so many ways you can use EFT to get you started on a new journey and the courses I’ve created are my way of offering help and possibilities to those who want to live life differently and maybe to help others live their life differently too.

They teach simple and new techniques that help you to get to the heart of what’s keeping you stuck. They teach unique ways of working to create deep and lasting change.

Not only will you finish with a brand new shiny set of tools, but you’ll know how to use them and you’ll have used them to make those changes in your own life. It’s such a win/win. You learn and clear your own stuff at the same time and if you choose to go down that route, you can also become an EFT Expert Practitioner.

10th September EFT Masterclasses online – Your EFT expert Toolkit

11th September Introduction to EFT – Live workshop

12th September EFT Masterclasses Live – becoming an EFT Expert