When the conflict goes you’re back in the flow!

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Hi Folks,

If you read last weeks blog you’ll know that I was clearing conflict between 2 parts of me that were trying to keep me safe in different (and very conflicting!)  ways.

I thought I’d share with you the difference it made. Suddenly I had more clarity about how I wanted my life to be. I remembered the things that light me up and recharge me and did MUCH more of them.:)

I not only finished knitting a bunny for the new grandchild due in November, I bought stuffing for it and some beautiful cashmere and merino wool to make it a blanket! I’m planning on signing up for some knitting classes, as I’m really self taught and basic and I’d like to do things that are interesting. I’m even sorting out my projects cupboard that’s stuffed with all the things I started and didn’t finish, to decide what excites me enough to start again and to tidy it so I can find those things!!

I seem to have won myself a lot of time. I’ve been going to bed early and getting up early, and allowing myself space in the morning for journalling and breathing.

Suddenly it feels as though I’ve got my life back again and of course, it was only me who let it go in the first place:)

It was a really good reminder to me that when things start to get out of kilter it’s time to take a look at what’s going on, clear the things that are stopping you being in the flow and then go out and live your life more joyfully, focusing on really being in the moment.

I was at the seaside in Staithes in Yorkshire at the weekend, it’s one of my favourite places and I had such a great time just pottering, doing what felt good and meeting interesting people. It’s so great how soul connections pop up everywhere when you’re connected to yourself. I spent time hunting for fossils and watching hermit crabs in the rock pools and walking and even went whale watching, (no whales though, just a very curious seal:) ).

Here’s a tapalong about giving yourself permission to be you and do what excites you.

And if I can be any help in resolving any conflict that your parts might be experiencing, let me know and we can do a session together. jacqui@jacquicrooks.com

Or you could join us on 3rd October at the next EFT masterclass Live, which is “Using Language for Change”. There you’ll get to clear your own deep stuff while you learn new tools. We had such fun on the last workshop and here’s what one attendee said, ” I thought I was coming to gain a tool but I see I’m going to gain so much more than that :-) Bless you for a wonderful day and I look forward to sharing the next sessions with you and the others.”

Have fun with your week and may you go with the flow:)

With love from

Jacqui

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Lighthouses don’t go running all over the island……

 

 


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“Lighthouses don’t go running all over the island, looking for boats to save.

They just stand there shining”

Ann Lamott

What a perfect quote. Doesn’t it just say it all? I was talking about being a lighthouse to a client the other day and of course, I was saying it for me too. (Don’t you love how your clients help you to learn:) )

I realised that although I know my job is to be me, to shine as brightly as I can, I still get caught up in the old rescuing pattern from time to time and I was doing that in a couple of areas of my life right now. Isn’t it amazing how it just sneaks up on you? One minute you are shining brightly, the next you’re running after those boats and guess what? Those boats are running at least as fast as you are:) you’re never going to catch them and even if you did, they’ll just keep running. Shining is your thing, they may have a different agenda, a different life path and it’s not for you to tell them they’re wrong.

If you are truly embodying you, if you are creating and living your life in a way that supports you, helps you to grow, then you can’t help but shine and in shining, you are inviting others to do the same.

Whether they decide to or not, is none of your business! You are your business and they are their business. It may not be what we were taught as children and it’s still the truth. You can’t make anyone change if they don’t want to and maybe, just maybe, they know what’s best for them in this life. It might not make sense to you, but to a part of them it does.

The most useful thing you can do for them is to shine your own light, wish them well and trust that all is as it should be, trust them to do what is right for them and trust you to know what is right for you (and then tap on any frustration because they just won’t do it your way 🙂 )

Have fun this week, shining your light. If you weren’t responsible for rescuing anyone this week, what would you be doing? Can you invest that energy in yourself? Allow you to shine even more brightly? I’d love to hear how it goes:)

And if you could use a hand in clearing old patterns that are hanging in there, book a session and we’ll get to the root and clear it.

Or join me on the 10th September for EFT Masterclasses online or 12th September for EFT Masterclasses live to learn even more effective ways to use EFT and clear that backlog of your own stuff while you learn:)

Foe those of you new to EFT, there’s also an Introduction to EFT live on the 11th September.

Please pass the dates on to anyone you think might be interested:)

And don’t forget The AMT conference in Eastbourne, where I’ll be talking about Trusting yourself.

And the EFT Gathering in York, where I’ll be talking about Coming Home to Yourself.

These conferences/gatherings are a wonderful way to connect to the EFT community, while seeing what others are doing with EFT. You always leave feeling inspired and uplifted (and of course there’s all the hugs:)

Tell me the old, old, story and cherry picking:)

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Hi Folks,

I’m back home now and suddenly I’ve found myself back in the middle of an old story I thought I’d let go of, after much tapping, several years ago! How many times have we done that I wonder:)

I found myself repeating it endlessly, to myself and anyone else who would listen. I’d rehearse it, look for justifications for it, generally wallow in it and even the part that usually tells me off for doing that was silent. I actually found a family member who acknowledged it and that really gave me joy. See I was right!!! It did happen like that!! It’s wasn’t fair!!

And where did all of that get me? In a very uncomfortable place, feeling feelings that weren’t appropriate for my life now, disconnecting me from people I’d prefer to be connected too and actually disempowered.

I’d chosen to step back into the role of victim and as we all know, that keeps us small and stuck. It’s impossible to live your life openly and joyously and to express who you are in the world, in all your multicoloured glory, when you’re curled up in a ball as a victim:)

It took some tapping, and some emotion code and support from friends, (thank you:)  ) before I could see what I was doing and that it wasn’t where I wanted to be, or who I wanted to be.

It feels great now, as though I can breathe more deeply, move more freely and really connect to the world and the people in it. I’m me and they are who they are and it’s all perfect. We’re all doing a great job in the best way we know how and that’s OK:)

So I created a tapalong on telling the old, old story, and if you resonate with this, it’s for you:)

If you’d like to edit your story, or even write a new one and you’d like my support, you can

Book a one to one session with me

Do the Introduction to EFT day on 11.09.15

Join EFT masterclass live, becoming an EFT Expert on 12.09.15 in both these workshops you’ll get to clear a lot of “stuff” while you learn.

Join EFT Masterclass online – creating an EFT expert toolkit on 10.09.15 You’ll get to clear stuff as you practice with other trainees:)

And the cherries are from my tree. It’s not the picking that takes the time, it’s the stoning and while I was doing that, there was time to think, which gave me insights on what to tap on.

I wonder how you give yourself time to think and connect with yourself? I’d love to know:)

With love from Jacqui

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I’m just flipping doing it!!

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What I’ve been doing while I procrastinated:) 

Hi Folks,

Well I’ve finally got back to blogging and newslettering. They say that you teach what you need to learn and procrastination has always been one of the things I teach and learn about!

A little while ago, I decided to dedicate Mondays to blogging and newslettering and it worked really well and I enjoyed doing them. I would think about them over the weekend and it felt great to sit down and write them first thing on Monday.

And then came my time in the States, where I didn’t keep Mondays for work and I got home on a Tuesday, to 3 weeks worth of emails and spam, so I put my energy into dealing with that.

And then as I’d not stuck to my Mondays, it was easier to say, oh, I’ll do it later in the week, and then, ….well no one seemed to mind that I didn’t do it last week, so maybe it won’t matter if I leave it to next week!! And so it went on.

The amount of energy I expended thinking about doing it and telling myself off because I wasn’t doing it could have written the blog and the newsletter multiple times! It was such an old pattern and I really don’t know…yet….why it reemerged, but I’d like to thank Sylvia, who told me about her new strategy, JFDI! It stands for just flipping, (or you can add your own version:) ) do it and so I am! Instead of thinking well I haven’t got long, and maybe I’ll wait till I have more time, and it’ll be better when I’m more clear about what I want to share, I’m JFDI and it feels good!!

I’ve written this in 10 minutes, which part of me thought I needed half a day?

And rather than set up my office to record the tapalong, I’ve done it right now in the conservatory and it’s done the blog’s done and I can send it out!! How cool is that? It’s always so much easier than we think it is!!

So happy tapping and enjoy JFDI and why not email me to tell me what happened for you?

And there’s more! I wrote this on Friday and then didn’t send it. I kept looking at it and it still didn’t go, so some thinking and tapping later I had a realisation.

Some of you will have heard me talk about the enneagram, a personality type system that I find really helpful. there are 9 types and I’m a 9. I’m a peacemaker and a peacemakers biggest problem is procrastination. When I’m in fear mode I go to 6 and when I’m feeling good I go to 3 which is the achiever. I realised that I’d been trying to make a decision about something that would affect other people as well as me and the 6 part of me was screaming, No!!! Don’t do it!!! Very loudly. The 3 part of me was shouting JFDI and so my peacemaking part, who likes everyone to be happy was frozen in the middle, because she couldn’t help both parts get what they want and I realised for a 9, that is probably the cause of the procrastination! I love it when I get insights:) A good bit of tapping later, and I’m ready to post, though I lost the additions once already. I guess the 6 part was winning then:)

And the reason the enneagram came to mind? My upcoming workshop and retreat in beautiful Slovenija. If you haven’t booked, there’s still time and I can guarantee you’ll fall in love with the place and the people and you’ll set yourself up for big changes:)

With love from Jacqui

The beginning of the new series of EFT Masterclasses, leading to the EFT Expert qualification.
And of course, if you’d like to clear anything that is in the way of manifesting what you want for yourself, you can book a session with me  Jacqui@jacquicrooks.com