Spring Cleaning!

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Welcome to Spring, a time of renewal, rebirth and growth.

It’s such an exciting time, every time I go out, there’s something different blooming and something has already bloomed and faded.

It’s no co-incidence that people spring clean, the energy is all about getting rid of the old, the “stuff” we’ve been holding onto and looking forward to what we want to create, how bright and shiny we want ourselves and our lives to be.

It’s been a magnificent spring here, because we’ve had sunshine and less rain than usual, so everything has taken the chance of growing, blooming, being out in the world and then  we had a frost and the apple blossom which was so magnificent turned brown on the top.

And that’s what can sometimes happen to us too. We are in a good space, we dare to grow, to bloom, to show the world who we are and then something happens that “damages” us. That feels as though it hurts or harms us and we wonder if the growing and blooming was a mistake. Should we have protected ourselves better? Should we have stayed small and hidden, would it have been safer?

And yet, the apple tree has already shown the world it’s magnificence, it’s added to the joy. It will continue to grow, it’ll still have fruit, even if it’s less, but the blooming was worth it and how could it not have done that, it’s what it’s here for.

And it’s the same for us. We’re here to grow and bloom and share who we are with the world. To add to the joy of the world and when the knockbacks come, as they will, remember, it’s still safe to shine, to be our glorious selves and anything that tells us different is just the younger parts of us that were hurt when they were young and who chose the only way they could see, to stay safe, probably because their parents did that, and their parents, parents right back through time.

Remember it’s not what happens to us that causes us problems, it’s the meanings we make of the feelings that are created and the one thing we can really be in control of is our feelings and the meanings we give them:)

So, if life is feeling a bit difficult right now, if you weren’t carrying your own old “stuff” and your families old “stuff”, if you’d had an emotional spring clean and you were looking at your now with clean, clear, fresh eyes, how would you choose to be seeing yourself? How would you be choosing to see the situation?

And remind your self you have the right and the ability, to decide what’s the most helpful way for you to see things and yourself and you can do that. It’s not only the best gift you can give to yourself, it’s the best gift you can give the world, because you’re adding love and joy to the world, which can be borrowed by anyone who needs it. Much more useful than wallowing in all the old feelings that we’re so familiar with and still, have compassion for yourself feeling those old feelings and give yourself permission to acknowledge them and let them go, they’ve served their purpose, they got you here and you’re here now and it’s finally safe to do things differently, that’s what tapping’s for:) !!!

If you fancy a spring clean, here’s a youtube video to guide you. Happy tapping:)

And of course if you want a really good, in depth clear out, you can book a session with me, I’m an expert at spring cleaning:)

With Love from Jacqui

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Tell me the old, old, story and cherry picking:)

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Hi Folks,

I’m back home now and suddenly I’ve found myself back in the middle of an old story I thought I’d let go of, after much tapping, several years ago! How many times have we done that I wonder:)

I found myself repeating it endlessly, to myself and anyone else who would listen. I’d rehearse it, look for justifications for it, generally wallow in it and even the part that usually tells me off for doing that was silent. I actually found a family member who acknowledged it and that really gave me joy. See I was right!!! It did happen like that!! It’s wasn’t fair!!

And where did all of that get me? In a very uncomfortable place, feeling feelings that weren’t appropriate for my life now, disconnecting me from people I’d prefer to be connected too and actually disempowered.

I’d chosen to step back into the role of victim and as we all know, that keeps us small and stuck. It’s impossible to live your life openly and joyously and to express who you are in the world, in all your multicoloured glory, when you’re curled up in a ball as a victim:)

It took some tapping, and some emotion code and support from friends, (thank you:)  ) before I could see what I was doing and that it wasn’t where I wanted to be, or who I wanted to be.

It feels great now, as though I can breathe more deeply, move more freely and really connect to the world and the people in it. I’m me and they are who they are and it’s all perfect. We’re all doing a great job in the best way we know how and that’s OK:)

So I created a tapalong on telling the old, old story, and if you resonate with this, it’s for you:)

If you’d like to edit your story, or even write a new one and you’d like my support, you can

Book a one to one session with me

Do the Introduction to EFT day on 11.09.15

Join EFT masterclass live, becoming an EFT Expert on 12.09.15 in both these workshops you’ll get to clear a lot of “stuff” while you learn.

Join EFT Masterclass online – creating an EFT expert toolkit on 10.09.15 You’ll get to clear stuff as you practice with other trainees:)

And the cherries are from my tree. It’s not the picking that takes the time, it’s the stoning and while I was doing that, there was time to think, which gave me insights on what to tap on.

I wonder how you give yourself time to think and connect with yourself? I’d love to know:)

With love from Jacqui

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I’m just flipping doing it!!

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What I’ve been doing while I procrastinated:) 

Hi Folks,

Well I’ve finally got back to blogging and newslettering. They say that you teach what you need to learn and procrastination has always been one of the things I teach and learn about!

A little while ago, I decided to dedicate Mondays to blogging and newslettering and it worked really well and I enjoyed doing them. I would think about them over the weekend and it felt great to sit down and write them first thing on Monday.

And then came my time in the States, where I didn’t keep Mondays for work and I got home on a Tuesday, to 3 weeks worth of emails and spam, so I put my energy into dealing with that.

And then as I’d not stuck to my Mondays, it was easier to say, oh, I’ll do it later in the week, and then, ….well no one seemed to mind that I didn’t do it last week, so maybe it won’t matter if I leave it to next week!! And so it went on.

The amount of energy I expended thinking about doing it and telling myself off because I wasn’t doing it could have written the blog and the newsletter multiple times! It was such an old pattern and I really don’t know…yet….why it reemerged, but I’d like to thank Sylvia, who told me about her new strategy, JFDI! It stands for just flipping, (or you can add your own version:) ) do it and so I am! Instead of thinking well I haven’t got long, and maybe I’ll wait till I have more time, and it’ll be better when I’m more clear about what I want to share, I’m JFDI and it feels good!!

I’ve written this in 10 minutes, which part of me thought I needed half a day?

And rather than set up my office to record the tapalong, I’ve done it right now in the conservatory and it’s done the blog’s done and I can send it out!! How cool is that? It’s always so much easier than we think it is!!

So happy tapping and enjoy JFDI and why not email me to tell me what happened for you?

And there’s more! I wrote this on Friday and then didn’t send it. I kept looking at it and it still didn’t go, so some thinking and tapping later I had a realisation.

Some of you will have heard me talk about the enneagram, a personality type system that I find really helpful. there are 9 types and I’m a 9. I’m a peacemaker and a peacemakers biggest problem is procrastination. When I’m in fear mode I go to 6 and when I’m feeling good I go to 3 which is the achiever. I realised that I’d been trying to make a decision about something that would affect other people as well as me and the 6 part of me was screaming, No!!! Don’t do it!!! Very loudly. The 3 part of me was shouting JFDI and so my peacemaking part, who likes everyone to be happy was frozen in the middle, because she couldn’t help both parts get what they want and I realised for a 9, that is probably the cause of the procrastination! I love it when I get insights:) A good bit of tapping later, and I’m ready to post, though I lost the additions once already. I guess the 6 part was winning then:)

And the reason the enneagram came to mind? My upcoming workshop and retreat in beautiful Slovenija. If you haven’t booked, there’s still time and I can guarantee you’ll fall in love with the place and the people and you’ll set yourself up for big changes:)

With love from Jacqui

The beginning of the new series of EFT Masterclasses, leading to the EFT Expert qualification.
And of course, if you’d like to clear anything that is in the way of manifesting what you want for yourself, you can book a session with me  Jacqui@jacquicrooks.com

Full of the joys of Spring!

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Since my last Blog, I’ve been really noticing the changes for me. Although nothing changed physically, I’ve still been doing pretty much as I was before the accident and the session after it, actually everything changed, because my feelings have changed. It  was such a great reminder of the power of our feelings. Suddenly, from feeling crowded and busy and hectic, with no time for me, it felt as though the world had opened out and there was space everywhere, between all things and between people too. I found myself moving easily through the day, finding time to walk and take care of myself, getting done more than I usually do and much easier. I had a smile on my face and lightness in my heart. And the only thing that was different was how I felt!

I had a wonderful workshop on Saturday, I do attract the perfect people to work with me and it’s so great to share with others. And what a wonderful holiday weekend we’ve had in the UK. We actually had a sunny Bank holiday, a real rarity here:) I went to a huge adventure playground with my son Sam and his girlfriend and little boy Riley. I even got to roll down a grassy slope, some things are just too much fun to stop doing:) we had a great time and I didn’t find the need to feel guilty once, not even when dinner took longer than expected. We just laughed and decided it would be a takeaway next time!

The learning for me in all this, is to listen to myself and to do what feels good to me. When I find myself drifting into old patterns I’ve reminded myself, that’s old stuff from the past, I don’t do that in the present and it’s been so much easier to stay in this good place. (and of course sunshine helps:) )

I wish you a wonderful Spring time and I’d like you to consider inviting all parts of you to see now as the beginning of the rest of your life. It’s time to let the past be the past and to move forward with what we’ve learnt.

Have a wonderful week, noticing all the wonderful things around you and that includes wonderful you:)

And if you know anyone who might like to share in some of the things I do, it would be wonderful if you could forward my newsletter to them, or a link to the blog, or to a youtube video. the best recommendations are always personal and I know anyone that comes through any of you will be my ideal clients:)

And of course, if there’s a course that you’re interested in and you’d like to gather a group of people, I’d love to come and share with you:) why not email me and we can talk about what’s possible:) jacqui@jacquicrooks.com

And here’s a tap along about enjoying spring, videoed in my garden by the pond:)

Gathering lilacs with Gran

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Hi Folks,

How amazing! I was having a session with my colleague when she heard the song “I’ll gather lilacs in the spring again.” I said that’s my Grans favourite song and then she was there, giving me the message that it was important that I started to trust myself with money! it took me straight back to childhood holidays when the money that Papa gave me that I was forced to save for holidays, was given back to me. I was so resentful at having to save it!! And when I finally got it what I did with it was supervised. I remembered so clearly being told I couldn’t spend it all now, “When it’s gone, it’s gone!” “You’ll be sorry later on if you spend it now.” and so many other instructions and limiting beliefs. And what I realised I had done from that was created a belief that money only goes out until it’s gone. It never comes back in. It matches perfectly with what I’ve worked on in the past, only seeing money leaving, never noticing it arriving, even though it has to arrive in order to leave again!

As you’ll know if you’ve been following the blog, I’ve done a lot of work around Money, preparing for the Money Programs, and it was so great to get this extra insight and so clearly. It’s a perfect example of how we work with EFT. We clear the stuff that we can see and that is available and then we carry on with life, ready to notice the next layer that wasn’t available to us before. Not every message comes to us as clearly as this did, from my Gran, but if you notice the things that are going on in your life, with a sense of curiosity and “I wonder why that happened then.” you’ll find ways to access the messages that are there for you.

The reason I was in the position to receive this message was because I’ve been in what I would call a “floppy” state for a couple of weeks now. I’ve not been doing things that I thought I “should” be doing, (and of course getting mad with myself because of it, even while my rebel was going “Shan’t!”)

I went back into the “I’m not sure if I should be doing this” place. The “what am I here for and what do I want to do” space and then not giving myself time to think things through, or tune into what was really important to me. I was far to busy not doing things!

Then on Friday I took my son and his wife to Heathrow to catch the plane for their honeymoon in New Zealand. 3 hours there and 3 hours back and I was tired when I got home at 10 pm. I parked and started to unload. I was just collecting the 2nd lot of stuff when I realised that the car, with the front door wide open was going past me, fast, I’d obviously not put the handbrake on properly and for once I’d not left it in gear. I had seconds to decide what to do before the door would be torn off by the gate post. I went to close the door and then thought I might be able to get the brake on, pulled the door wider, ran around it and tried to pull the brake on but was at the wrong angle and hadn’t the power. I turned and was trapped between the car door and the gatepost. The scream woke the next door neighbours and then I had to push the car far enough to free myself and get into the car, without doing even more damage to the door. I managed it and immediately rescue remedied and arnica ed myself. The door was sprained and I was bruised, new ones appearing daily:) and I spent several days feeling very wobbly and tired.

I can recognise a message when it hits me that hard so I did something about it! I booked a session with a colleague to get some clarity on why part of me thought it was necessary to do something so dramatic. We looked at trapped, facing the wrong way and going backwards. I’d had several dreams of driving round in circles:)

There were so many great insights and lots of clearing of things from this life and from past lives. And then there was the message from my Gran!

I’m so grateful to have received that insight so clearly, along with others about giving myself time to be with myself and decide what’s important to me. I’m so happy to recognise that the rebellion I was feeling had a purpose. The way I was moving forward just wasn’t right for me, there are so many more congruent ways for me to get out the message of what I can offer and of course one of them is people who like what I do, sharing that information and my details with others who might like it too. I love working in that organic way. Living my life, enjoying being here and sharing what I’ve learnt with people who want what I have to offer.

So…. if you know anyone who might like to share in some of the things I do, it would be wonderful if you could forward my newsletter to them, or a link to the blog, or to a youtube video. the best recommendations are always personal and I know anyone that comes through any of you will be my ideal clients:)

And of course, if there’s a course that you’re interested in and you’d like to gather a group of people, I’d love to come and share with you:) why not email me and we can talk about what’s possible:) jacqui@jacquicrooks.com

And meanwhile, here’s a video tapalong on listening to the messages:)

With love from Jacqui

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Skydiving – floating free

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I got to go skydiving!!! One of the things I planned to do before I die and I got to do it:)

My son gets married next Monday and it was his girlfriends Hen weekend this week. She’d planned indoor skydiving for Sunday and of course I signed up:) I really fancy leaping from a plane and this was a good way to practice. My son sent me a video of someone tumbling all over the place, bouncing off the walls and said that would be me!! I decided that it wouldn’t and I could feel myself tensing as I determined to do it well. That’s when the light bulb dawned, the last time I made that sort of decision about something physical was windsurfing with my 16 year old son. I was so determined to stay upright that I was so tense i spent the whole time falling in, climbing back on the board and falling in again, while Alex sailed easily from one side of the lake to another.

This time I realised that relaxing was the key, being myself, and allowing the wind in the tunnel to do what it was designed to do, support me. Sound familiar? it felt like the perfect metaphor for living life, being ourselves, relaxing and allowing the universe to do what it’s designed to do, support us.

Armed with that thought I just let myself be. I did what I was told, trusted and floated beautifully. It was fantastic and the guy said he was amazed at how well I did, he rarely supported me on my second flight. (Until he grabbed me, whirled me round and spun me to the top of the tunnel and back, that is:) it was like the best sort of fairground ride and I can’t wait till I can do that myself:) )

It was fun doing it and being part of the group and best of all, it reminded me that life flows more easily when you allow it to support you. That it’s natural for that to happen and that all we need to do, is relax and allow ourselves to be supported.

So if you’re finding yourself in a difficult place at the moment, struggling to sort things out and it’s not happening, how would it be to stop the struggle, just for a moment? To take a breath, step back and ask the universe to support you and allow yourself to believe it might be possible. If you released the dreaded how’s and just decided it would happen, I think you’d be amazed at how things fall into place. I know at the most difficult times in my life, when there’s been no way out but trusting, huge changes happened, so fast.

And wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could allow ourselves to do the trusting first, without having to hit rock bottom? I think that’s my intention for this week and here’s the “wouldn’t it be wonderful game for you to join in with. I’ll start you off and then you can join me with the things that are important to you.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if I could remember that the universe supports me?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if I could trust it to do what it’s designed to do?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if I could recognise that my struggles are what throw me off course?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if if I allowed myself to be in the flow rather than sink to rock bottom before I have the energy to come up again?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if I recognised that was just an old pattern and probably not even mine in the first place and that it doesn’t fit with who I am now and what the world is in 2015?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if I could allow myself to fly and feel the universe lifting me up and know that I’m safe…. because that’s the truth, whether I believe it or not:) and I’m open to the possibility I can make it My truth and live my life differently.

And so it is …..

And if you’d like help in regaining your trust, contact me for a blockbuster session.

If you’d like to allow money to flow freely in your life join me on the Creating new Money programs webinar, only 5 places left at the discounted price.

And if you’d like your EFT to flow freely, why not join my on my Masterclass, Language for change.

I look forward to working with you:)

With love from Jacqu

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Hug a tree and get life into perspective

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Connecting with trees is a great way to put life in perspective, many of them were here before we were born and will be here long after we leave and for me it reminds me that what worries me today has no place in the bigger picture. Life goes on and all will be well.

I had a great walk yesterday, through a nearby country park which is famed for it’s very old oak trees. legend has it that the tops were lopped off when Lady Jane Grey was beheaded, so that makes them at least 500 years old.

It was freezing with an icy wind blowing, though the sun was warming the trees. I leant against an ancient one and could feel the warmth of the bark and the aliveness of it and it felt very good. My grandparents came here when they were courting, my father came when he was young. I came with my family as a child, catching 2 buses and carrying a picnic basket. We climbed trees and rocks and paddled in the stream and so did my boys when they were young. There’s such a sense of continuity and it feels so good knowing that whatever people were worrying about then, is past and over and soon our worries will be the same.

When we’re deep in our “stuff” sometimes we don’t want to get out of it, we don’t want to see the bigger picture and that’s OK. Sometimes wallowing is what we need to do and we can do that because a part of us always knows that it’s temporary, that everything changes and that it all works out OK in the end, whatever it looks like on the outside. Thank goodness for EFT and our other tools, because we know, when we’ve had enough wallowing we can do something about it!

I know one of my old survival strategies was imagining the absolute worst that could happen and how I’d deal with it, and then knowing that, I could let go and move forward. Knowing about the Law of Attraction, that no longer seems such a great strategy, though it still sneaks in from time to time:) These days I remind myself to focus on what I DO want, rather than what I don’t and I’m gentle with myself when I forget. I think its a bit like training a puppy, you just have to keep reminding yourself when you forget, without making it personal.

What strategies do you use? Do they work for you? I’d love to hear about them. Would life be easier with new ones?

If you’d like to explore new possibilities, why not book a blockbuster session and have a clear out of the old.

And you might like to check out this video from Nick Ortner of the Tapping solution. the 7th World Tapping Summit is coming soon and there will be some great free tapping available for you then and a series of videos even before it’s launched.

Whatever you do, have fun and stay warm:)

Heres’s a tapalong on putting things into prospective:)

With love from Jacqui

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Just say YES!

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Hi Folks,

What I learnt from doing the EFT Founding Masters program was Just say yes! work out the hows later:)

I’ve been to visit my favourite place this weekend, Yorkshire, known to it’s inhabitants as Gods own country and I know why. It’s so beautiful, hills and moorland, big skies, small dales, tumbling streams. It feels like home to me and I’m drawn there several times a year. My mother family come from that area, so although we didn’t visit much as a child, maybe there’s something ancestral that came down to me from there. I can feel myself relax at a certain point of the journey, I’m home and safe:) I was thinking on the journey about the hills and how much I love them. whether I’m on them looking down, or below them looking up, they inspire and support me. I’ve always understood the quote, “I look to the hills, from whence cometh my help.”

It reminded me of the time I took the EFT Masters program with Gary Craig and Ann Adams. I saw it advertised and I knew it was for me. For the 1st time in my life I had no doubts about my ability to do it and I signed up. I had no idea what was involved but I knew I had to say yes and worry about it later….and I did! It was the hardest thing I’d done in my entire life and probably the most satisfying. The application alone took weeks. We had to answer questions that required a lot of thought, (no multi choices here!). then they went through our websites and our business cards and stationery. they looked at anything we had on the web, anywhere. we had to get references from trainers, colleagues, clients.

When we were accepted, (they only accepted 2/3rds of British applicants and 1/3 of Americans) we then had to do a demonstration in from of Ann and Gary and our colleagues and an invited audience and be questioned about what we did and why we did it, afterwards.

Following that, we had a year to complete the exam which entailed answering questions about our demonstration and what we could have done differently and then 16 essay type questions! As I said, it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and the most rewarding as I found out so much about myself and my way of using EFT by going through it!

When I finally heard I’d passed and was an EFT master, I ran to my local hill, “My” space, and I thanked the universe and all who’d been part of it. I felt as though I would burst with the gratitude I was feeling and I remember I saw a plane in the sky and told the universe that I was accepting the challenge to get EFT out worldwide and you probably know the rest of the story!

What came to me, rethinking that time, is how powerful saying yes is and how, once you do, the whole universe moves round to support you. It also confirmed the power of the Law of Attraction. If you are 100% convinced, you can’t do anything but attract what you want. I was so certain that day that my job was to travel and take EFT around the world that every part of me was in alignment and I attracted what I needed to achieve that. So… the next time someone invites you to do something try saying yes and see what help you attract…you might be surprised:)

Here’s a tapalong on saying YES

Full of the joys of Spring!

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What a wonderful world!

Isn’t it amazing how great you feel when the sun comes out after hiding behind the black storm clouds? And it always does!

Even when it’s hidden, part of you knows it’s there and it’s only a matter of time before it’s out and shining on you again, with all it’s warmth and comfort.

Being ill since the new year was so interesting. It took me to all sorts of places and gave me so many opportunities to have a clear out of old, longstanding patterns that no longer work for me. Even as I wallowed, part of me knew it wouldn’t last, it was an opportunity and soon things would be different. It never ceases to amaze me how if I’m in a wallow place I can’t imagine being anywhere else and if I’m in a good feeling place I can’t imagine being anywhere else! And all the time a part of me knows both are just part of life’s rich pattern 🙂

I’m well again now and full of energy and inspiration after the clear out of the old and so things are flowing beautifully in my life.

The Money program last Thursday was great. So much good stuff to work on and I’m looking forward to seeing where people are, after the program finishes.

Then I held the first of my Masterclass Live workshops on Saturday and I remembered how much I love workshops where you have time to connect with people on a deep level and people can have the time to immerse themselves into the learning and have time to practise and feel confident. The next one is Using language for change, (including reframing) on the 22nd Feb

It was a great group, (I love how I attract such lovely people to my workshops:) ) we have a wonderful time and it was so satisfying being able to share what I know works, to let go of the outdated ways of working and see people taking their practice to a new, deep level. The work the people on the workshop with each other was astonishing. they got to such deep levels of healing. they felt amazed at what they had achieved and I had the satisfaction of knowing that they’ll use what they learnt to benefit their clients.                         Here’s what they said afterwards.

“Thanks again for the magical day yesterday, I was so excited to be sharing such powerful energy.”

Many thanks for yesterday. I was still inspired this morning so carried on from where I left off yesterday…and did some more shifting!”

Yesterday I went for a walk for the first time since the new year and although it was frosty, it was sunny and you could feel things growing in the earth. you could smell it. I get so excited at this time of the year, spring’s on it’s way, the earth is renewing itself and we can do the same. I feel as though I’ve had my spring clean and now I’m ready for the off:)

This year will be really interesting for me, as I am creating everything that I am doing, from scratch. It feels like I’m starting again and I’ve moved out of the scary space, into the place of possibilities. I’m sure that there will be so many new, wonderful opportunities coming my way this year and if you’d like to be part of it, why not think if there’s something you would like do, collect a group of friends and invite me to create a workshop for you:) I can create one on anything you want. It could be teaching advanced EFT skills, it could be creating abundance, releasing overwhelm, creating powerful goals. anything is possible, if you think it is 🙂  I love travel, so anywhere is possible and I’m setting the intention that I get to meet even more lovely people in even more lovely places over this year.

I’d love to hear what your intentions are, why not let me know jacqui@jacquicrooks.com

With love from Jacqui

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When life knocks you down, roll over and look at the stars!

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Well… I want to say welcome back to the world! If you read the previous blog, you’ll know I had “the bug.” Most of the rest of the people around here had it too, but I don’t usually catch anything, so I was surprised and I guess, horrified, to find I’d succumbed, just like everyone else!

There was a lot of “That’s not supposed to happen,” “I’m supposed to know better,” “How come I didn’t see I was out of balance,” going on, before I finally settled down and allowed myself to just be where I was. The thing about being a therapist and knowing you have choices, is that nothing feels random anymore, so there’s a need to take responsibility for what’s going on.

As I said in the last blog, one of the things going on was that I’d said I wished I could stop telling my old stories and this certainly sorted that one! And as it continued and I discovered that anything requiring effort sent me back to bed, I wondered what else was going on and what I discovered was the old belief, that I can’t have time off unless I’m ill was in play. It was created in childhood, when as children we went to school however poorly we were, unless we could prove we couldn’t get out of bed!

I’d promised myself time off over Christmas. Time to potter, to catch up, to do jigsaws, embroidery, make lace, all the things I don’t give myself time to do and I hadn’t done that, apart from Christmas I’d carried on focusing on work and I was mad with myself for not taking the opportunity as I’d planned. Being ill gave me the perfect excuse to switch off, not that I was able to do any of the things I’d planned, but at least I wasn’t working!

It made me look at my life with fresh eyes and see what I’d created. I love my life and I love the things I do and certainly it’s not very balanced, work takes over most of my waking time and though I enjoy it and it feels good, it also feels that I’d benefit from more of a balance, adding more fun, non work things in. I’d already put into place computer Monday, when I do the blog, newsletter, any videos and social media stuff and that works well, because it’s done and dusted at the beginning of the week and I don’t have to keep it in my energy system. I’m planning on working the rest of the week that way too. It requires more planning than usual, putting things I need to do in specific places in the calendar, so I don’t have to carry everything in my head and I think it will work. If I decide not to do something at the time planned, I’ll know I can move it to a different time and I can stop beating myself up because I’m not working. I think it will work and it will deal with the left overs from when I first started work for myself when every time I talked to my mum she said “shouldn’t you be working!” I think the child part of me just took over the job of saying that and I’ve been responding to it all these years.

So, there’s a gift in everything, if you look for it. If something’s not working in your life, what might it be telling you? What information can you find? How can you change things so that you no longer need to get the message in an uncomfortable way?

Join me in thanking the universe for the wonderful way it works. Know that it’s all good, we’re not meant to suffer, just to get the message and move on. Let’s welcome the world in it’s infinite variety, knowing that we’re an important, integral part of it.

Tapalong on dealing with the uncomfortably unexpected!

Even though that wasn’t what I expected, I’m OK

Even though maybe it was exactly what part of me expected and that’s why it happened, I’m OK

Even though it’s hard to believe there’s a positive side to this, I’m open to the possibility that there may be, if I allow myself to see it.

I didn’t want this

At least I don’t think I did

What if part of me thought I did?

What if part of me knew this was the only way to get a message to me?

What if it’s perfect in it’s own way?

What if I needed to hear this in this way, so I can learn and make changes?

What if this is a real gift?

What if I can use this as a simple way to see me and my life differently, so I can recreate my life as I really want it? And maybe I can be grateful for the message and take the learning and let the message go, it’s served it’s purpose and I’m OK.

It’s a new year, spring is on it’s way, let’s have fun together.

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If you live in the UK and you want to clear out the roots of the beliefs that are keeping you stuck, you could join us on January 17th for the Masterclass, Getting to the roots of an issue easily.

You could join us on the Money program webinar, starting on the 15th January. (Both rescheduled because of the bug.)

If you’re tired of repeating the same patterns and you want this year to be different, why not book a 1 to 1 session with me and have a really thorough spring clean?

Whatever you do, enjoy yourself, in whatever way works for you:)

With love from Jacqui

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